Women Helping Women

It was only when I embarked upon my project that I hit headwalls. And time and time again I found friends, mostly women who came forward when and where I was least expecting to help. My sisters, yes- but acquaintences who became colleagues and friends as they of their own voilitions stepped onto my plate. Today I wish to simply thank them. My sisters Renu, Meera, and Neeta for being there for me- my creative and dear friend Eve Bennett for turning my flyer golden and making it fly, Jessica Lockhart for helping to give me voice on air, Beth Marshall for so generously and sweetly donating her time to give faces on my website to the many who shared with me their thoughts, Shonna Milliken Humphrey for believing in my stories, Josephina for not accepting No from me, and so many others- friends to me and mothers to my children's friends who have time and time again stepped up on the plate to simply be there. Thank you.

Hurray to co-ed sports

My daughter loves to play sports. Soccer is her passion. If math were soccer, she would shoot a goal in it more frequently that she does today- but math is math. And soccer is soccer. No comparison. Especially, when she gets to play it against the boys and beat them at it. Half the time anyway. And then she gets to play mixed- co-ed soccer at the age of 10. It is perfect. Why don't we do it more? Especially now, when the girls have a physical edge balancing the agility and speed of the boys- it is the perfect time to build gender sensitivity. All those terms of gender equality, equity and what nots we throw about and do sensitisation trainings when we are almost fully insensitized already- they are all too late. We need to start early- at the age of birth and let them play together until they want to separate. And if not- heck- it must only be because they all made the team regardless- on equal capabilities- then who are we to say, no.

Read about Dr. Ranjana Kumari, President of Womens Power Connect, body of 600 national womens organizations of India http://worldviewpoints.com
Read about Dr. Kiran Bedi, India's first woman Asian Tennsi Champion and first and highest woman law enforcement officer http://worldviewpoints.com

Happy Mother's Day!!!

Mother's coming together in rural India on Self Help Platforms at my website-
http://worldviewpoints.com/vupoints/newDelhi_viewpoints.html

To all you Mother's out there old and young, with children to take care of, or ones fortunate enoug to be cared for by their children and to those just doing their thing one day at a time- A Very Beautiful, calm, serene and fun filled Happy Mother's Day! For myself, a cup of tea- children are still asleep and then driving around town to put posters up for my upcoming event: Breaking Barriers: From Maine to New Delhi which melds my eastern and western perspectives to make a bridge for the sharing of Issues, Ideas and Solutions, such as the Self Help Groups in rural India, one of my fondest interviews as I watched these women who had been suppressed behind the Ghoonghats of their saris that covered their faces now rise up full of self esteem and start small businesses, employ other women and even build a federation with elected representatives to solve mutual problems. They were all going to educate their young, they said, especially their girls. Please take a few moments to read this evocative and poignant interview underlayed with these women's humor in very difficult circumstances: http://worldviewpoints.com/vupoints/newDelhi_viewpoints.html
The second photo has the full interview at this point.

O! Connecting to the Young

So- I have been invited to be the keynote speaker at a conference for 15-18 year olds from a few different states. It is exciting- Idealism exists; We are immortal; Can do anything; Such a pro-active and full of possibilities audience. What better place and people to talk about all the changes I would want to see in the world: Usher in democracy through Twitter; Connect across races and ethnicities- to friends of friends through Facebook or other networking sites; Pick your bag, join peacecore and dig a well- do a random act of kindness that will leave a mark even 40 years from now, like it did for Jim who went to a small rural town in Punjab and built a one room school. Now, when he went 40 years later, the school still existed and had been added on a bit, and even girls were now going to it. Read more at http://worldviewpoints.com

And with this audience whose delegates are all hopeful world changers, my hope is that they would be savvy enough to use all the tools at their disposal, all the technologies and know better than to twitter or Facebook their lives away. For they must be able to make the time to dig a well. Build a school. Stop a war. And make sure that girls are brought forward in this world with as much pride as the boys. Our hope has to be these 15-18 year olds. Their hope is themselves. Now who can teach me to twitter real quickly?

How do things change?

Well- first, how do things not change? When beliefs become religion, gouging deep wide lines in smooth stones- creating unspannable, unbridgeable chasms- things stop changing. On the other hand, when beliefs change, things change. Such a simple concept- and yet... why does the world get stuck in ruts?
When we believe we can't- we don't. When we believe we can- we do. Another simple mantra- so hard, so so impossible sometimes to follow. And yet, only those whose beliefs birth, sprout and evolve afresh whether in stagnant or in changing times change the world. But it also requires a lot of courage- a tremendous amount of courage-enough to fight and break centuries old traditions to carve for oneself a ladder to climb over the walls and join the rest of the advancing world. Bhavna, is one such young lady in India who has fought the conservative traditions of her family to educate herself and become independent before she will allow herself to be married. Click on http://worldviewpoints.com to read about this determined young woman who refuses to be dependent on anyone- not her brother, or father or her husband.

This is not a feminist blog. And no- if you believe in the superiority of men, you actually just shouldn't be occupying any space or time anyway. This blog is about Equity.
Even in Hinduism God is called Ardh-Narishwar, half woman God. There are Goddesses untold- all cosmic manifestations of energy in different forms. So- why are women made to suffer in a country where they are worshipped on pedestals? (Maybe that's the problem in the first place!) Why are women killed- tortured- burnt- aborted in this latest plague of Feticide consuming Asia? Can there be a world without women? And what happens to any civilization when men start to outnumber women as is happening in India and China? Is it not a frightening thought?
It is interesting though that when there were more women in India than men- we started the dowry system- the one who gives the most gets the groom. But when we have more men- more testosteron- sex crimes are on the increase. And we get wars.
But without men what world would it be? Not too fun. And really not productive at all! That would be an end too. It has to of course, be a balance. But everyone knows that- no?
But it is also important to know and realize that men are as critical for this new battle for women's rights and existence as are the women working in it. There are many men- many many men- who understand and believe in equity and are equally concerned and actively working for it. And Children at least in my son's school are growing up thoroughly comfortable with their belief in Equity. Because, ultimately, it all boils down to Equity: Race, Gender, Class, Caste, Religion, Ethnicity or whatever differences we create on an everyday basis around the world.
As says Zoya Hasan of the Minorities Commission of India: "To me the issue is not about minorities or women per say, to me the issue is about Equity."
Check out her thoughts at http://worldviewpoints.com/vupoints/newDelhi_viewpoints.html
and also in women ChangeMakers in Delhi http://worldviewpoints.com/PresentationFiles/WomenChangeMakersIndiaPresentation.pdf

Time to water the Garden.